Crossroads

 

Lesson # 19: Crossroads   

Ok, We’ve come to a place where we are at a CROSSROADS in your Recovery.

Our lesson tonight based on Principle #7 & Step #10:

  • Principle 7:  “Reserve a daily time with God for self-examination, Bible reading, and prayer in order to know God and His will for your life and to gain the power to follow His will.”

  • Step #10:  “Continue to take personal inventory and when you are wrong, promptly admit it.”

As I said, at a CROSSROADS

  • Traveled long road to get here.

  • Looked honestly at your life, you did inventories, you confessed sins,  honest w/others,  encouraged to practice humility

  • Been allowing God to make changes in you

  • Courage to make amends & to forgive.

Some of you have said to me months ago:   “Too difficult”    “I can’t do it”

In Reality:  You couldn’t have ever made it this far by yourself – on your own power.    You could only have made it this far with Jesus as your higher power.

  • Jesus explains it in John 8:32    “you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”

  • Then in John 14:6 he defines that truth:  “I am the way and the truth and the life.  No one comes to the Father except through me.:

  • INDEED – we have all been set free  from our addictions, HHH, compulsive behaviors because of the “TRUTH”

 

SO,   you are at a crossroads now. 

  • Not a time to rest on your laurels and relax

  • Need to work these last 3 steps with same passion we have been following the previous steps.

    • I Corinthians 10:12 says:  “So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall!”

OK – Before we introduce the remaining steps to the program, lets do a little reflection and feedback.  (come off the stage here)

                        ASK:   What have you learned in CR?   What things has God made clear to you?
                                    What advice would  you give a person just starting CR?

 

Alright, let’s go back to step #10 now & take a closer look:

  • First thing we notice is :   Made up of 3 parts:    WHAT  -  WHY  -  THEN WHAT?

  • The “what” :  “  continue to take personal inventory…”

  • The “why” :    “ we were wrong…”

  • The “then what:”   “ promptly admit it…”

 

OF course we need an  ACROSTIC:    Tonight it is  T E N

  • “T”  take time to do your daily inventory

  • “E”  Evaluate the good & the bad

  • “N”  Need to admit our wrongs promptly

The “T” answers the “what” question

  • Take time to do a daily inventory

  • What is an “Inventory” anyhow?     Simply:  “counting”

    • Businesses take inventory – Taking “Stock”

    • Principle #7 is simply saying you need to reserve a daily time with God for self-examination,(counting) – bible reading – praying.

    • This gives us a designated time each day to count.   ASK:   Count what?

      • Good AND the Bad

        • Blessings, victories, gifts, good decisions made, times you were strong, etc.

        • Not so good:  failures, mistakes, weak moments,

        • Lamentations 3:40 says:  “examine your ways and test them, and return to the LORD.”

    • OK,  we all need to ask ourselves a few questions if we want to truly “examine our ways…”

      • What good did I do today?

      • In what areas did I blow it today?

      • Did I do or say anything that hurt anyone today?

      • Do I owe anyone amends?

      • What did I learn from my actions today?  (good or bad)

      • What did God make clear to me today?

    • So, do you do this?    Are you reflecting on your day in such a way that you are remembering if you harmed anyone, or if you acted in kindness to someone else? 

    • As mentioned in Principle 4, you need to keep this inventory in B A L A N C E

    • One of the reasons for doing the inventories is to keep us from slipping backwards.    Hopefully /  As we remember we will see more good than  bad. 

The “E” in TEN stands for EVALUATE   -   It answers the “why” question

  • Notice the language – it doesn’t say “IF” I were wrong ,  or “if” I blow it.    NO  it says  “WHEN”

  • You will  be wrong sometimes,   and you will make mistakes

    • I  John 1: 8-10 keeps us honest with ourselves:  “If we say we have no sin, we are only fooling ourselves, and refusing to accept the truth, But if we confess our sins to him, he can be depended on to forgive us and to cleanse us from every wrong.   If we claim we have not sinned, we are lying and calling God a liar, for he says we have all sinned.”

    • John 3:21 says WHY:   “whoever lives by the truth comes into the light.”

    • Step 10 brings us into a daily “light” referred to here in John 3

  • Once we see the light – we have a choice – all about choices isn’t it?

  • We choose to ignore what we see OR to act on it. 

The “N” is how we answer the “Then What?” question.   We NEED to admit our wrongs promptly.

  • Many struggle with admitting they are wrong.   It’s what DENIAL is all about.

  • Some refuse to offer amends or even to receive forgiveness. 

    • That is so foolish – blocks all your relationships

    • Need to just do it.

  • One other word in step # 10 is problematic for many of us:   Word:  “PROMPTLY” !!

    • Isn’t it somehow easier to admit the mistakes we made years ago than the one we just made yesterday?

    • BUT  step 10 says:  “PROMPTLY” !!!   

      • As soon as you realize you blew it you need to admit it.

      • Matthew 5:23   This is how I want you to conduct yourself in these matters.  If you enter your place of worship and, about to make an offering (of worship), you suddenly remember a grudge a friend has against you, abandon your offering, leave immediately, go to this friend and make things right.  Then, and only then, come back and work things our with God.”

        • Do you see the “Promptly” in there?   I do.

One way I keep track of my good & bad behavior is to keep a JOURNAL. (part of this “counting” idea.)

  • Not dumb stuff like calories, or what you watched on TV.

  • Look for positive AND negative patterns   -  do something about them.

  • Share them w/your accountability partner / sponsor

DISMISS TO OPEN SHARE GROUPS:

            Newcomers to room 304 with:____________________________

 

Ok, We’ve come to a place where we are at a CROSSROADS in your Recovery.

Our lesson tonight based on Principle #7 & Step #10:

  • Principle 7:  “Reserve a daily time with God for self-examination, Bible reading, and prayer in order to know God and His will for your life and to gain the power to follow His will.”

  • Step #10:  “Continue to take personal inventory and when you are wrong, promptly admit it.”

As I said, at a CROSSROADS

  • Traveled long road to get here.

  • Looked honestly at your life, you did inventories, you confessed sins,  honest w/others,  encouraged to practice humility

  • Been allowing God to make changes in you

  • Courage to make amends & to forgive.

Some of you have said to me months ago:   “Too difficult”    “I can’t do it”

In Reality:  You couldn’t have ever made it this far by yourself – on your own power.    You could only have made it this far with Jesus as your higher power.

  • Jesus explains it in John 8:32    “you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”

  • Then in John 14:6 he defines that truth:  “I am the way and the truth and the life.  No one comes to the Father except through me.:

  • INDEED – we have all been set free  from our addictions, HHH, compulsive behaviors because of the “TRUTH”

 

SO,   you are at a crossroads now. 

  • Not a time to rest on your laurels and relax

  • Need to work these last 3 steps with same passion we have been following the previous steps.

    • I Corinthians 10:12 says:  “So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall!”

OK – Before we introduce the remaining steps to the program, lets do a little reflection and feedback.  (come off the stage here)

                        ASK:   What have you learned in CR?   What things has God made clear to you?
                                    What advice would  you give a person just starting CR?

 

Alright, let’s go back to step #10 now & take a closer look:

  • First thing we notice is :   Made up of 3 parts:    WHAT  -  WHY  -  THEN WHAT?

  • The “what” :  “  continue to take personal inventory…”

  • The “why” :    “ we were wrong…”

  • The “then what:”   “ promptly admit it…”

 

OF course we need an  ACROSTIC:    Tonight it is  T E N

  • “T”  take time to do your daily inventory

  • “E”  Evaluate the good & the bad

  • “N”  Need to admit our wrongs promptly

The “T” answers the “what” question

  • Take time to do a daily inventory

  • What is an “Inventory” anyhow?     Simply:  “counting”

    • Businesses take inventory – Taking “Stock”

    • Principle #7 is simply saying you need to reserve a daily time with God for self-examination,(counting) – bible reading – praying.

    • This gives us a designated time each day to count.   ASK:   Count what?

      • Good AND the Bad

        • Blessings, victories, gifts, good decisions made, times you were strong, etc.

        • Not so good:  failures, mistakes, weak moments,

        • Lamentations 3:40 says:  “examine your ways and test them, and return to the LORD.”

    • OK,  we all need to ask ourselves a few questions if we want to truly “examine our ways…”

      • What good did I do today?

      • In what areas did I blow it today?

      • Did I do or say anything that hurt anyone today?

      • Do I owe anyone amends?

      • What did I learn from my actions today?  (good or bad)

      • What did God make clear to me today?

    • So, do you do this?    Are you reflecting on your day in such a way that you are remembering if you harmed anyone, or if you acted in kindness to someone else? 

    • As mentioned in Principle 4, you need to keep this inventory in B A L A N C E

    • One of the reasons for doing the inventories is to keep us from slipping backwards.    Hopefully /  As we remember we will see more good than  bad. 

The “E” in TEN stands for EVALUATE   -   It answers the “why” question

  • Notice the language – it doesn’t say “IF” I were wrong ,  or “if” I blow it.    NO  it says  “WHEN”

  • You will  be wrong sometimes,   and you will make mistakes

    • I  John 1: 8-10 keeps us honest with ourselves:  “If we say we have no sin, we are only fooling ourselves, and refusing to accept the truth, But if we confess our sins to him, he can be depended on to forgive us and to cleanse us from every wrong.   If we claim we have not sinned, we are lying and calling God a liar, for he says we have all sinned.”

    • John 3:21 says WHY:   “whoever lives by the truth comes into the light.”

    • Step 10 brings us into a daily “light” referred to here in John 3

  • Once we see the light – we have a choice – all about choices isn’t it?

  • We choose to ignore what we see OR to act on it. 

The “N” is how we answer the “Then What?” question.   We NEED to admit our wrongs promptly.

  • Many struggle with admitting they are wrong.   It’s what DENIAL is all about.

  • Some refuse to offer amends or even to receive forgiveness. 

    • That is so foolish – blocks all your relationships

    • Need to just do it.

  • One other word in step # 10 is problematic for many of us:   Word:  “PROMPTLY” !!

    • Isn’t it somehow easier to admit the mistakes we made years ago than the one we just made yesterday?

    • BUT  step 10 says:  “PROMPTLY” !!!   

      • As soon as you realize you blew it you need to admit it.

      • Matthew 5:23   This is how I want you to conduct yourself in these matters.  If you enter your place of worship and, about to make an offering (of worship), you suddenly remember a grudge a friend has against you, abandon your offering, leave immediately, go to this friend and make things right.  Then, and only then, come back and work things our with God.”

        • Do you see the “Promptly” in there?   I do.

One way I keep track of my good & bad behavior is to keep a JOURNAL. (part of this “counting” idea.)

  • Not dumb stuff like calories, or what you watched on TV.

  • Look for positive AND negative patterns   -  do something about them.

  • Share them w/your accountability partner / sponsor

DISMISS TO OPEN SHARE GROUPS:

            Newcomers to room 304 with:____________________________